Roundtable Discussion–Free for All
June 5, 2014
4 PM PDT 5 PM MDT 6 PM CDT 7 PM EDT
Jill Smolowe has written two memoirs that depart from common wisdom about her subject matter. The first, An Empty Lap, ignited discussion in the adoption world about the stresses marriages endure when couples, out of sync about whether to have kids, delay starting a family. Her new memoir, Four Funerals and a Wedding, steers clear of the usual how-my-life-came-apart grief script to explore what kept her going as she lost her husband and three other loved ones in rapid succession. With both memoirs, Jill invited criticism of not only the literary variety, but the personal as well. On June 5, Jill and Linda Joy will explore what propels a writer to go against the tide—and how to find insulation from the personal attacks that can result.
• When is it worth infringing your privacy to put intimate details about your life in the public domain?
• What is the importance of identifying the lens through which you will tell you story?
• Why focus a lens in your work that invites criticism from readers?
• What is the importance of having a message? How does it guide your storytelling choices?
• Given privacy considerations, what obligations do you have to others who appear in your story?
• Is catharsis a goal? How does that differ from Aha moments?
Jill Smolowe is the author of the memoirs Four Funerals and a Wedding: Resilience in a Time of Grief and An Empty Lap: One Couple’s Journey to Parenthood, and co-editor of the anthology A Love Like No Other: Stories from Adoptive Parents. An award-winning journalist, she has been a foreign affairs writer for Time and Newsweek, and a senior writer for People, where she currently specializes in crime stories. Her articles and essays have appeared in many publications and anthologies, including the New York Times, the Boston Globe, The Washington Post Magazine, More, Red (UK), Adoptive Families and the Reader’s Digest “Today’s Best NonFiction” series.
Visit Jill at www.jillsmolowe.com and facebook.com/jillsmolowe.author
Ththank you
I’m looking forward to this event. Thanks for all the wonderful presentations.
How do I sign up fir this roundtable? Or, have I? Thank you.
Is there no contact information for this tele-seminar? What # do we call?
I am very interested in hearing this conversation. I am writing a memoir (Return to Sender) about rejection. I am sure to receive criticism about the subject matter–a young child that lives with a mother that rejects her–not a popular perspective, but I am telling my story because I want to shed light on emotional abuse and emotional pain. During the 60s and 70s, this was not as uncommon as most people think. There are a lot of people STILL carrying the pain of this experience. The roundtable that you are having today, I think, will be very helpful in preparing me for criticism.
I would like to sign up for this roundtable.
Very timely for me. Working on a memoir wherein I may reveal a relationship that may pose difficult.
Will this be re-aired or otherwise available? An unavoidable conflict yesterday prevented my tuning in!
Hi Phyllis,
The audio recording will go out this week to everyone who signed up.
Kind Regards,
Erica
NAMW
Jill, I purchased the Kindle edition of your book. I’ll let you know how I like it when I am done. I find this book an interesting topic as I, also, lost four relatives between 2004 and 2005 – my sister (my only sibling), my mother, my favorite uncle and my dearly beloved husband, Roger. All deaths so close together were a shock to me, especially my husband as he had just turned 67 and we had paid for a trip to Hawaii for the month after he passed away. Of course, I didn’t go, but made that trip with a girlfriend in 2010. Life surely changes after you lose that many relatives so close together! Barbara